My school’s motto was “living to learn, learning to live” designed to inspire you to achieve decent qualifications and give you a head start in life. In my case it opened the door for me to gain a degree in Psychology, without which I wouldn’t have the career I do today 🙂
Official learning is valuable, but so is unofficial learning…
I’m talking about us learning on the job!
What do you think you have unofficially learned during your life so far?
What wisdom have you gathered?
Here is a light afternoon tea selection of life learning for you… Enjoy!
- You are unique – there is only one version of you. The best thing you can do is be true to who you are. Embrace your personality, opinions, body shape, humour, likes and dislikes. You want to travel? Do it! You want to learn to read the tarot? Great! You want to start a blog? Go for it! You want to climb the highest mountain in Scotland? Have fun! You want to vote to leave the EU? Ok! Your overall happiness will improve when you tune into your true self, engage in activities & make decisions that suit you, and when you vow to stop comparing yourself to others – they are not you!
- Social media is not representative of real life. Instagram pages are the worst culprits I think for displaying photos of how wonderful life is, in a delightful filtered fashion. Now don’t get me wrong – I enjoy a Valencia filter as much as anyone, but social media does require a caution before use. The photos are highlights. Celebrities and generally famous people can afford/are paid to live a certain lifestyle. All snapping their new designer handbags in moody lighting. Friends can also enhance their experiences. Enjoy the photo, take a pinch of salt, and carry on with your day 🙂
- Receiving feedback is a good way to learn. Negative feedback can be tough to take, but it is recommended to take constructive criticism in the spirit it was intended. None of us are perfect, and most of us could benefit from the odd tweak. If someone is genuinely trying to help you and wanting to encourage positive change – be open to it. Top tip: Taking things personally only makes you feel bad – don’t waste your energy.
- I can’t do the splits, but I have learned to be flexible in other ways. We are the same person 24/7, but when it comes to interactions with others we can adapt. Being flexible is a positive approach to relationships. As we get to know people, we know what presses their buttons, what they feel comfortable with, and we gain understanding about where they’re coming from; others get to know this about us too. Ideally, we meet near the middle and both enjoy the results. E.g. meeting a friend in the daytime, rather than the evening, so they can have family time. If you rigidly stick to your idea of meeting them in the evening – you might not see them at all!
- We can’t control what happens to us, we can only control our reaction to it. This list wouldn’t be complete without some CBT learning 😉 It speaks for itself really; we have choices. We can choose our response. We can choose our behaviour. We can choose to rise from flames like a phoenix! Or something less dramatic but along those lines hehe.
Let me know if you have any wisdom to share – I’d love to hear it!
Have a good week,