Month: September 2015

The unexpected

The unexpected

Not sure about you, but I’m sure during my lifetime I have made this face on a number of occasions…

To me, it represents the initial “Oh. My. God” type reaction you can get when something unexpected happens.

Friend – “BOO!”

Work – “It’d be great if you could deliver that presentation this afternoon…”

Mechanic – “Your car has failed it’s MOT and needs £500 of work doing…”

Relationship – “I don’t think this is working…”

Family – “Your brother isn’t very well, he’s going to have to go into hospital…”

Often in these types of situations our emotions will feel unpleasant, we are likely to feel anxious, worried, scared, nervous, fearful…

These feelings can diffuse quickly; especially if you realise your friend is just trying to make you jump – we might laugh it off and forget it happened (or seek revenge later ;))

Our emotions are internal signals…

Emotions provide information about what is going on around us and

can motivate us to take action.

… and sometimes we move quickly;

From “OMG” to “no problem, I can handle thisconfident faceFor the more intense situations, hundreds of thoughts and questions can flood your mind…

“I can’t believe this!”

“What am I going to do?”

“I can’t cope with this…”

“What is going to happen next?”

“This is a nightmare!”

“I need to do something”


For practical problems, seeking a solution is a great way to handle the situation.

Naturally then our anxious emotions dissipate, and we return to our usual selves.

sorted


The reality for more intense situations and situations out of our control (e.g relationship breakdowns, illness, the future) is… there is often nothing we can do. 

This can be extremely difficult to accept.

Ultimately though, the best thing you can do is accept it.

  • Accept the situation; it might change – that’s OK.
  • Your emotions might feel like they are on a roller coaster – that’s OK.
  • Your thoughts and questions will still come, they might remain unanswered – that’s OK.

If you want to do something, do things to help yourself feel OK.

You might want to continue “business as usual”, you might want to talk about it, you might want some time alone, you might want to focus on taking each day as it comes.

If you are dealing with someone else’s situation – you might want to find out from them what you can do to help them feel OK? You might not be able to solve their problem, but they might just want you to be there for them.

hug11Be kind to yourself – life throws curve-balls from time-to-time,

Take care,

N

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Friendship

Friendship


Good morning!

Chilly start this morning, so here is a list of the top 10 reasons friends can brighten your day and make you feel all warm + fuzzy inside!

Friends…

  1. Love you
  2. Accept you
  3. Listen to you
  4. Entertain you
  5. Comfort you
  6. Celebrate with you
  7. Support you
  8. Laugh with you
  9. Encourage you
  10. Dance with you!

By being a friend you give all* of these back – it’s a win-win!

*10 is an optional extra 😉

Building and maintaining friendships contributes to positive wellbeing. Ideally, while spending time together a lot of the above will be happening naturally; whether it’s a phone call, a quick brew at home, a dinner date or a full weekend together – it’s no wonder we feel so good after a catch-up!

Deep down the best thing for us to do is love and accept ourselves, and be loved and accepted – by purely being ourselves; friends are great for embodying this as they regularly choose to talk to you, spend time with you and keep you company during life’s twists and turns.

Feeling close to others is just as important as being active and having a sense of achievement when it comes to boosting mood! You could even do all 3 at once for maximum feel-good results!

What do you enjoy most about your friendships?

What are your favourite things to do with your friends?

Here’s hoping for plenty more brightened days with friends!

Have fun & take care,

N

Music!

Music!

All set for the weekend?

I sure am!

One of the best ways to shake your week off, blow those work stresses away or lift your mood is to listen to music. Taking it a step further is to sing away to your favourite songs! 

Hands up who does that!

Music is universal, and I know for certain parts of my life there are soundtracks to accompany experiences, good and bad!

So whether you’re at home, in the car, walking around, relaxing – make yourself a feel-good playlist!

These are my current top singing out-loud in the car songs! 

  1. Shake it off – Taylor Swift
  2. Crazy in Love – Beyoncé
  3. Shut up and Dance – Walk the Moon
  4. Chandelier – Sia
  5. Rather Be – Clean Bandit
  6. Pompeii – Bastille
  7. Feel the Love – Rudimental
  8. Wild Ones – Flo Rida
  9. King – Years and Years
  10. Glitterball – Sigma ft. Ella Henderson

I do love Beyoncé! Who doesn’t, right?

Let me know what songs make you feel good!

Wishing you a great weekend!

Enjoy & take care,

N

Stressed out?

Stressed out?

In an ideal world, all our plans would work out perfectly. Simple as 1, 2, 3…

How many times does this actually happen I wonder?

We have so many things to juggle nowadays don’t we, it can be difficult to know where to start.

In my experience, we are usually equipped with the following:

  • Good intentions
  • A plan
  • Allocated time
  • Stuff you need for the plan

Surely, that is all that is necessary right?

On some days: YES – all of the above is all you need to get whatever task you want to do DONE!


Shopping – no problem!

Housework – I’ve already done it!

Call a friend – I’m sitting with a hot chocolate chatting away!

Cook dinner – Isn’t cooking wonderful?!

Organise a trip – Ooh I’m so excited!

#easypeasy


*Ahem*

What about the other days?

On any given day, there are so many variables that our plans may change, be postponed, take longer than anticipated, get cancelled… etc! Let’s take a look a few variables:

  • How you are feeling
  • Who you are with
  • How the person you are with is feeling
  • Your phone signal
  • Your internet connection
  • The weather
  • Your memory

The list could go on…

(Can you tell I like lists by the way?)

So first of all, I would like to highlight that excellent things to do at this point are:

BREATHE

Count to 10

Go to your imaginary happy place

Remind yourself “everything is OK”

Remember, we had good intentions, a plan, allocated time and stuff we needed for the plan…

This is just what happens! 

LIFE happens!

We can get SUPER stressed! Or we can re-balance, and put whatever happened into perspective.

Did the world end? I’m guessing not

Is it funny? Come on, is it a little bit funny that you nearly had steam coming out of your ears because the TV was distracting you a disproportionate amount while you tried to reset your Twitter password for the fifth time?

Yes, yes it is.

Ask yourself – is my reaction in this moment helpful to my life?

If not, it is OK to take a deep breath, have a cup of tea, laugh about it and apologise to whoever’s head you nearly bit off.

This happens to everyone, they may not tell you, their Twitter/Facebook life may look perfect, they may appear serene but I guarantee this happens.

We’re all doing our best!

Breathe & take care,

N

Feeling good

Feeling good

Good morning! It’s Friday! Yay.

Fridays are great aren’t they; full of anticipation for the weekend! A well earned break after working hard all week. Planning and participating in meaningful activities is proven to help boost mood. What is not to like? 

For my first official blog post, I thought I would share my top 10 favourite weekend activities!

  1. Friday night glass of rosé
  2. Saturday morning lie-in
  3. Catching up with friends
  4. Browsing the shops
  5. Spending time outdoors 
  6. Reading my book
  7. Dinner out + cocktails
  8. Day trips (sometimes spontaneous!)
  9. Relaxing at home
  10. Watching TV + films

What type of activities do you like to do at the weekend?

There is still time to make some plans if you haven’t already!

Enjoy & take care,

N