Not sure about you, but I’m sure during my lifetime I have made this face on a number of occasions…
To me, it represents the initial “Oh. My. God” type reaction you can get when something unexpected happens.
Friend – “BOO!”
Work – “It’d be great if you could deliver that presentation this afternoon…”
Mechanic – “Your car has failed it’s MOT and needs £500 of work doing…”
Relationship – “I don’t think this is working…”
Family – “Your brother isn’t very well, he’s going to have to go into hospital…”
Often in these types of situations our emotions will feel unpleasant, we are likely to feel anxious, worried, scared, nervous, fearful…
These feelings can diffuse quickly; especially if you realise your friend is just trying to make you jump – we might laugh it off and forget it happened (or seek revenge later ;))
Our emotions are internal signals…
Emotions provide information about what is going on around us and
can motivate us to take action.
… and sometimes we move quickly;
“I can’t believe this!”
“What am I going to do?”
“I can’t cope with this…”
“What is going to happen next?”
“This is a nightmare!”
“I need to do something”
For practical problems, seeking a solution is a great way to handle the situation.
Naturally then our anxious emotions dissipate, and we return to our usual selves.
The reality for more intense situations and situations out of our control (e.g relationship breakdowns, illness, the future) is… there is often nothing we can do.
This can be extremely difficult to accept.
Ultimately though, the best thing you can do is accept it.
- Accept the situation; it might change – that’s OK.
- Your emotions might feel like they are on a roller coaster – that’s OK.
- Your thoughts and questions will still come, they might remain unanswered – that’s OK.
If you want to do something, do things to help yourself feel OK.
You might want to continue “business as usual”, you might want to talk about it, you might want some time alone, you might want to focus on taking each day as it comes.
If you are dealing with someone else’s situation – you might want to find out from them what you can do to help them feel OK? You might not be able to solve their problem, but they might just want you to be there for them.